PERSPECTIVE with Nicole Ellis

Episode 6: Decide to Change

Episode 6: Decide to Change
Is there something you are wanting to fix about your child's behavior?
Expecting your child to change simply doesn’t work.  Maybe they don’t want to change.  Maybe they don’t even think they are in the wrong.  Perhaps they don’t understand why it’s important and maybe they don’t even have the mental or physical capacity to make your desired changes.
In the end, if there’s something you don’t like, something that is creating tension in your family relationships, it is you that needs to change and do things differently.  It’s not that you are doing things wrong, instead perhaps what you are doing just isn’t effective for that child.  In order to be an effective parent, you need to change your approach. 
How do you SUCCESSFULLY create changes in your own life?
In this episode, we will explore your power to create change in yourself and how doing so will also enable you to positively influence your children when they are desiring to make changes in their life. 
I will share with you the truth about why our physical bodies resist change and how we can overcome that resistance and continually strive to improve ourselves.
We will explore why doing scary things intentionally is very important and how we can create courage to change.
I  will share with you my 5 C's of Creation:
Clarity --> Courage --> Commitment --> Consistency --> Confidence!
Which will help you to successfully create changes in your life.
Finally, we will go over how you can use these tools to support others as they make decisions to change.
What changes do you want in your life?
What opportunities do you want to give to yourself and your family to grow? 
What is the first decision you need to make to work towards that goal? 
YOU have the power to change your life! 
You don’t need to waste your time and energy trying to change others. 
You can DECIDE to CHANGE and do things differently! 
This episode will show you how!
That’s a Happiness Perspective!  
 
Do you want to create greater SUCCESS and HAPPINESS in your personal and family life?   Start TODAY by downloading my FREE "STOP the FIGHT!" 3-Step Parenting Success Guide
Learn more about working with Nicole at https://www.happinessperspective.com
 

Episode 5: Appreciation

Episode 5: Appreciation
“If we can just let go of our own expectations and instead appreciate the opportunities and growth we are experiencing we can find so much more happiness in life.”
Are your personal expectations actually holding you back from feeling happiness?
Appreciation is where the greatest happiness lies.  We can’t control other people, but we can control ourselves, what we think, what we do and how we feel.  We can let go of our own expectations for ourselves and others that are holding us back from truly enjoying our life and our relationships.
 
In this episode, we will explore Appreciation, Expectation and Demand and how these different approaches impact our relationships.  I will explain my Appreciation Theory and share some personal experiences to show you how increased appreciation can help you let go of demands and expectations that are negatively impacting your relationships.  Using this approach frees you from the worry and frustration that results from trying to control others and enables you to enjoy the process of working together towards solutions.
Here are some questions to consider:
How often do you feel and express appreciation for what others do for you?  
Is there anything you have come to expect or even demand that once you simply appreciated? 
How can you help someone else practice taking control of their own decisions and at the same time provide an opportunity to practice appreciation over expectations and demands yourself?
How can you move towards being unified with your spouse on this issue or on the same side as your child rather than in opposition and fighting against them?  
How can you choose to act from love and appreciation rather than being filled with resentment and jealousy?  
How can you help in this situation by expressing your appreciation rather than expressing your unmet expectations or demands?
Appreciation is where the greatest happiness lies.  
Let go of all those expectations and demands that aren’t serving you and simply appreciate the good and the opportunities you have every day to learn and to grow.
That’s a Happiness Perspective!  
 
Do you want to create greater SUCCESS and HAPPINESS in your personal and family life?   
Start TODAY by downloading my FREE "STOP the FIGHT!" 3-Step Parenting Success Guide
Learn more about working with Nicole at https://www.happinessperspective.com

Episode 4: Energy (Part 2)

Episode 4: Energy (Part 2) 
 
How to get moving & keep your momentum going to create lasting change!
 
In part one of this conversation about Energy, I talked about How you can increase the amount of potential energy you have so that you have energy for the things you want to do. If you haven’t already listened to Episode 3 I suggest you pause now and download and listen to that episode first then come back to continue the topic here in Episode 4.   
Now, Let’s talk about how can you change your potential energy into kinetic energy or in other words how can you get moving in your desired direction and keep your momentum going to create lasting change? 
Let me give you a 4 tips for managing your energy long-term:
Set goals to regularly fill your bucket to overflowing!
Give your energy to what matters most.  
Express Gratitude for what you have and share from your abundance
Surround yourself with others that fill your bucket and help you carry your burdens.  
Taking time to reflect on the things I shared with you today will help you harness the power of the energy available all around you and use it strategically to create momentum towards the relationships and results you want most.  
Energy is the ability to do work, to make things happen and to create change. 
How can you get more energy?  
How can you use your energy to create the changes in life you want most?
The answers to these questions will help you gain a HAPPINESS PERSPECTIVE!
 
Do you want to create greater SUCCESS and HAPPINESS in your personal and family life?   
Start TODAY by downloading my FREE "STOP the FIGHT!" 3-Step Parenting Success Guide
Learn more about working with Nicole at https://www.happinessperspective.com

Episode 3: Energy (Part 1)

Episode 3 – Energy (Part 1) 
How to increase your energy for the things you WANT to do!
Energy is everywhere.
 
Energy is the ability to do work, to make things happen and to create change. 
YOU have potential energy!  When you change your potential energy into kinetic energy you create momentum in a chosen direction. 
Today I want to share with you two ideas about energy: 
How can you increase the amount of potential energy you have so that you have energy for the things you want to do.  (Episode 3)
How can you change your potential energy into kinetic energy or in other words how can you get moving in your desired direction and keep your momentum going to create lasting change? (Episode 4)
 
We talk about energy like it's limited but it's not.  There is an unlimited amount of energy available to us but we need to access it and use it strategically.  
 
Let's talk about how energy works and how can we manage our energy supply so that we are using it to our best advantage.
 
In this episode, we will explore the 3 different kinds of energy we all use every day:  physical energy, mental energy and spiritual energy. You will learn the importance of managing your energy levels and will discover ways to increase your energy in ways that are most efficient and enjoyable to you.  We will also discuss some of the challenges we face in using our energy wisely.  Finally, I will suggest one area of focus that can save you time and energy focused on the wrong things.
 
Learn how to focus on what matters most and spend your time and energy in the most beneficial way.
That’s a happiness perspective. 
Don’t forget to download Episode 4 for Part 2 on this topic!
Do you want to create greater SUCCESS and HAPPINESS in your personal and family life?   
Start TODAY by downloading my FREE "STOP the FIGHT!" 3-Step Parenting Success Guide
Learn more about working with Nicole at https://www.happinessperspective.com

Episode 2: Focus on What Matters Most

Episode 2 – Focus
Learning to take responsibility for where we focus our thoughts is a major part of our human experience.  Deciding what holds our focus is a decision that only we can make for ourselves.  Whatever we choose to focus on we will see more abundantly in our lives.
 
Focus in on what matters most!
 
Often dads are easily distracted by behaviors they don’t like instead of focusing on the actual problem their child or spouse is experiencing.  We all make the mistake of focusing on fixing others rather than focusing on fixing our own imperfections.  
Our focus needs to be in the right place.
If we are focused on the Savior, we will live our lives in a way that is full of love and grace for ourselves and others.  
If we are focused on following his teachings and example, we will still make mistakes but we will not fail.  
If we are focused on doing our best and being our best, we will become a better version of ourselves every single day. 
If you are feeling overwhelmed or weighed down by the circumstances of your life, I invite you to increase your focus on Jesus Christ:  
What can you do to bring Christ into the center of your everyday life?  
What can you do to bring Christlike attributes into your relationships?  
What do you need most in your relationships?  
Can you choose one Christlike attribute to focus on this week?
Dads, do not be so focused on your day to day tasks, on the problems you and your loved ones are facing or on the circumstances of your personal life that you loose focus on what matters most.  I plead with you to maintain your eternal perspective as you work through the sometimes messy details of day to day life.  Remember, God is interested in the details of our lives and He has sent His son to walk with you every step of the way!
That’s a happiness perspective.
Do you want to create greater SUCCESS and HAPPINESS in your personal and family life?   
Start TODAY by downloading my FREE "STOP the FIGHT!" 3-Step Parenting Success Guide
Learn more about working with Nicole at https://www.happinessperspective.com

Episode 1: Success for Dads!

Episode 1: Success for Dads
 
Dads are struggling to find the support and help they need in creating success at home and in their personal lives. 
We all think that becoming a spouse and a parent should be natural.  
We should just know what to do when problems arise, but we don’t. 
It isn't natural!
In fact, our natural responses are often causing our problems to grow. 
Men have a deep desire to serve, to provide and to create success.  
The very best way to help families be more successful is to help dads be SUCCESSFUL.  
In this episode we will explore:  
“Why did I decide to coach dads?” 
“What is SUCCESS and how do we know when we’ve achieved it?” 
“What’s next?... What more do you want in life?”   
SUCCESS is a journey.  Let’s do it together! 
Don't give up!  
Embrace the hard things happening in your life as an opportunity to learn and to grow personally.
You can get yourself unstuck and moving forward. 
You can build a new level of confidence in yourself. 
You can build a SUCCESSFUL life at home. 
That’s a Happiness Perspective. 
Do you want to create greater SUCCESS and HAPPINESS in your personal and family life?   
Start TODAY by downloading my FREE "STOP the FIGHT!" 3-Step Parenting Success Guide
Learn more about working with Nicole at https://www.happinessperspective.com